This short "Romantic Memo" contains thoughts, observations, research and ideas about Keeping RomanceAlive  in relationships.


She was tired. Actually, she was exhausted. It had been a week of visiting family and friends, introducing her teenage daughter and elementary-age granddaughter to the sights and culture of Singapore.

After some 20 hours confined to row 34 on flight SQ8, she spotted the Santa Barbara coastline rise from the endless expanse of the slate grey Pacific as the sky transitioned from midnight to morning blue.

Rousing the girls, she felt the 777 gently roll onto its right wing, settling into final for LAX.

The “ding” announcing arrival at the gate might as well have been the bell sounding at the starter’s gate at Santa Anita. Eager business suits and leisure wear sprang into the aisles.

Her ex was to pick up the girls. Maybe she could bum a ride to her home.

Riding the escalator to the greeting gallery, her tired eyes popped wide open. Fully awake, she saw her sweetheart looking at her, a smile on his face and a bouquet of flowers in his hands.

This is still the most romantic she’s ever experienced.

  • Was it the smile on his face that touched her heart?
  • Was it the time and money he’d spent to greet her that created the memory?
  • Was it the dozen posies making it romantic?

It was all of these and more. Yet, it was none of these.

He’d done something to express affection to her in a meaningful yet unexpected way, which created the special moment and a memory she treasures years later. That’s the definition of Romance.

Romance happens in moments. Sometimes as a surprise for your sweetheart. Other times it’s jointly planned.  No matter. You went out of your way to expresses affection in a special way. And in that moment, you romanced your sweetheart, creating another memory, making your relationship great.

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