This short "Romantic Memo" contains thoughts, observations, research and ideas about Keeping RomanceAlive  in relationships.


Like the infamous scene from Hitchcock’s “The Birds”, conflicting thoughts attacked Tico from seemingly everywhere and nowhere at the same time. Doubts yanked at him, attempting to intimidate him from stepping onto the stage.

You’re not ready for this?”

You might make a fool of yourself.”

What if you fail?


His commitment to succeed triumphed over fear and doubts.

Romancing your sweetheart can be a bit intimidating. Like Tico, you’ve wanted to romance your sweetheart. And when that moment arrived, you hesitated. And maybe you’ve heeded the siren call, abandoning the idea before succeeding.

We’ve all been there at some point. And maybe repeatedly.

How do you muzzle those voices? By romancing your sweetheart.

How do you romance despite your fears? Here are some traits you can develop, lessons “Moose” learned while at West Point Academy.

  1. No Excuses.

No matter how daunting the idea of romancing your sweetheart, decide to be romantic and don’t let any excuse deter you.

  1. Embrace the Suck.

OK, maybe a bit harsh (it’s the army) but the idea is to push through your doubts and anything which tries to dissuade you from romancing your sweetheart.

  1. Take Ownership of the Situation. 

When you claim it as your relationship with your sweetheart, something extraordinary happens. It becomes personal. It’s yours. And you really can’t be romantic until you own it.

  1. Be Decisive.

Try without having all knowledge of being romantic. After 20 years, I’ve still much to learn. Besides, waiting to have all knowledge is an excuse. See #1. Use what you know and do your best with that. Being romantic requires taking action.

Want to romance your sweetheart? (Yes!) Are you willing to commit to romancing your sweetheart? (Yes!) Start with trait #1. Step out on that stage and romance your sweetheart today.

Thanks to "Moos" from for the habits he shared on his website.

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