This short "Romantic Memo" contains thoughts, observations, research and ideas about Keeping RomanceAlive  in relationships.


It was probably one of the biggest challenges she’d ever faced. She deeply loved her sweetheart and wanted to romance him.

But she could feel the cold fingers of fear sending shivers across her back as she considered her plans. He might reject the Romantic Interlude she was creating for him, for them.

Have you ever felt that way? Have you wanted to create a Romantic Interlude and had that monster fear attack you? You expended time and energy thinking up this Interlude only to spend more energy facing down insidious fear?

This thing, this fear, these thoughts which are trying to dissuade you from following through, will do anything, including lie to you, to keep you from romancing your sweetheart.

A song I’ve been hearing addresses this. Let me share some of the words:

Fear, he is a liar
He will take your breath
Stop you in your steps
Fear he is a liar
He will rob your rest
Steal your happiness
Cast your fear in the fire
'Cause fear he is a liar
(Jason Ingram / Zach Williams / Jonathan Lindley Smith, © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Essential Music Publishing)

How do you get beyond this fear of creating a Romantic Interlude? How do you put your plan into action?

Let me share some ideas.

First, realize fear is like a line of dominoes, each depends on the action of the previous domino. If any domino is stopped, the line stops.

Second, challenge the arguments fear is presenting. When fear is faced with facts, it begins to lose its steam, lose its momentum, lose its power.

Third, take a step despite the fear. Step through the fear. Then take another step. Action defeats fear.

When faced with the specter of fear, instead of letting its lie deter you, take action and create that Romantic Interlude

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