This short "Romantic Memo" contains thoughts, observations, research and ideas about Keeping RomanceAlive  in relationships.


What do guys consider romantic?

Messages from readers suggest women are desperately stumped to find the answer. 
What does their guy think, or do I dare say feel, is romantic? 
Does romance mean anything to guys beyond physical intimacy?

What do you think?

As a guy, you might not have given it much thought. Maybe you’re frustrated your sweetheart views romance as the guy’s responsibility to create. 

My research reveals guys find many things romantic. Let me suggest some broad categories for romancing the guy in your life. 

Affirm him. Let him know of a specific accomplishment for which you’re proud of him. Compliment something physical about him. Tell him how you feel when you’re with him. Be honest in your affirmation. If you don’t believe what you say, neither will he.

And tell him what you’d really like to do together. Tell him you’d like to take a walk together. Start a conversation about a weekend getaway and suggest a location or two. Let him know you’d appreciate it if we could go here or do this together. It helps his uncertainty when he’s trying to construct a Romantic Interlude. 

Touch him. Put your hand in his while you’re walking together. Take his arm and put it around you. Tussle his hair (if he has any). Touching is about connecting with him physically. He’ll notice. 

Create a date. Turn the tables on him. Guys feel it’s always their responsibility to create an Romantic Interlude. Surprise him with dinner, complete with candles. Plan to take in a sunset performance in the mountains or along the beach. If you know work’s been tough, pamper him.

It’s easy to write off men as not wanting to be romanced. Truth is, many of us want to be romanced on occasion. Have fun and from time-to-time, romance the man in your life.


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