Do you walk away… or are you willing to fight?
When a relationship hits difficulties, the real question isn’t what happened. It’s how each partner responds.
Here’s my experiences.
Our relationship hit a bump. Not a deal-killer. But it created a gully between us. Which could deepen into a Grand Canyon. I valued her. Valued us. Didn’t want the gully to destroy our connection. Our relationship.
So I reached out.
It was risky. She could dismiss my overtures. Decided it wasn’t worth fighting for. But to me, it was. I made it clear I wanted to mend our connection. I was in it for the long haul. Wouldn’t quit. Wanted to restore connection.
Fortunately, she reached back. We reconnected. Faced the difficulty together. Our relationship deepened. Intimacy grew.
I’ve also lived the opposite. One partner didn’t reach out. Didn’t try to repair the breach. I heard the painful message: I wasn’t worth fighting for.
Ever experienced that?
A friend shared this powerful emergency plan she and her husband agreed upon in case they found themselves considering divorce.
Week One: A break. Time apart to think, reflect, cool down, and evaluate the relationship.
Week Two: Communication. Take turns speaking and listening without interruption. Continue until each feels truly understood.
Week Three: Physical connection. Enjoy physical intimacy. Give and receive pleasure. Find out if the flame still exists.
Week Four: Decision. Commit to reconciliation or termination?
What a powerful declaration. Before anger and hurt, we’ve committed to a path for healing. This relationship is so valuable we pledge to fight for it.
I can’t help but believe, if more couples created promises like this, fewer relationships would quietly and painfully dissolve.
Be willing to fight for your relationship.
Even better. Prevent that gully from forming. Keep Romance Alive in your relationship. Regular Romantic Moments strengthen connection. Help avoid implementing emergency plans.
Are you willing to create an emergency plan? Or will you throw up your hands, maybe try to ignore the issue(s) and hope it just gets better?
Robert Beagle
