Every morning, part of my personal daily routine is Richard Flint’s “The Morning Minute”. These 60-second insights keep me focused on my continual personal growth.
> Violinist Niccolo Paganini,
> Charles Spurgeon,
> Pianist Anton Rubinstein,
> Trumpeter Louis Armstrong
shared that if they missed a single day of practice, they’d know it. Miss two days and colleagues know it. Miss a week of practice and the world would know it.
Couple years ago, I bought a house.
- The Crepe Myrtle hung halfway across the street.
- Holly “bushes” were 20-foot trees.
- The “lawn” was mostly weeds.
- You could hardly see the front of the house.
What do these have in common? World-renowned artists, a house and my personal life all require regular attention. Maintenance. And when ignored, there are negative consequences.
The same is true with your partner. And Valentine’s Day is an example.
Week after week, life’s flood of events are allowed to come between you. The idea of creating Romantic Moments is lost in the debris allowed to pile up unaddressed. Then one quiet night, you panic. Realize it’s been a long while. And you frantically put together a short, marvelous Romantic Moment in an attempt to close the chasm between you.
But that’s not how relationships work. The occasional burst of over-the-top Romantic Moments doesn’t keep you connected any more than Louis Armstrong playing for 20 hours straight to make up for missing six weeks of practice.
What works. What helps you create an outstanding relationship are the regular, small Romantic Moments you provide for your partner. Personal, intimate Romantic Moments are the regular “maintenance” connecting the two of you. They prevent erosion of your relationship.
You know your partner is worth it. You know the rewards for maintaining and growing your relationship. So plan weekly Romantic Moment “maintenance”. And if needed, schedule them in advance on your calendar.
