Is your kissing habit quietly killing your relationship?
Think back to yesterday.
- Did you kiss your partner only at predictable times: Hello – Goodbye – Goodnight?
- Did you kiss him/her at any other moment?
Most couples live inside routines. Weekday routines. Evening routines. My family once had a predictable Friday night routine. Life gets built on repeatable subroutines. Helpful – but numbing.
And kissing your partner can become just another subroutine. As a result, romance withers. Your relationship drifts.
Valentine’s Day is coming. It can become an opportunity to jolt your relationship in a positive way. But don’t wait to pucker up until “the moment is right”. Become an unpredictable kisser, kissing when least expected.
Unexpected kisses interrupt the mindless “to-do lists” we carry. The kiss pulls them out of the fog of daily life and signals your partner, “You have my attention. Right here. Right now.”
Spontaneous kisses cut through the monotony of two people living on autopilot. It reconnects the two of you, if even for a moment before life’s demands drag you back to routines.
An unexpected kiss is more memorable. When the brain is surprised, it shifts that moment from background noise into emotional memory. A pleasant, shared memory.
A kiss, especially an unexpected kiss, becomes a biological agent, boosting your moods by releasing dopamine, the feel-good endorphin. It also lowers stress.
And an unexpected kiss reinforces desire without conditions. It quietly says, “You’re special to me. I chose you. And I choose you again, right now”
Even if Valentine’s Day wasn’t on the calendar, unexpected kissing would matter. Don’t limit kissing to just the predictable routine of pecks on the cheek or lips. Kiss your sweetheart often. Unexpectedly. Repeatedly.
Romance lives and you sustain your connection not by grand gestures alone. It lives through small, thoughtful, and intentional moments of connection. That’s how to keep Romance Alive.
IF YOU HAVEN’T DONE SO YET, check out the video series I created on the celebration of love, romance and “Valentines” around the world. You can find the videos on YouTube and Instagram (@RomanceAlive) and Facebook (Romance Alive). There is also a series of interesting questions about Valentines I’m posting on Factbook and Instagram. The answers can be found here on my website.
Robert Beagle, LET
