Both of us considered this a Romantic Failure.
Our morning departure was delayed to afternoon. You know how it is. Whether planned or not, last minute this and that delays you. And we’d agreed we’d take a longer, more scenic route home instead of the monotonous I-5 through central California. Consequently, five hours driving drained us. Instead of powering through a midnight drive, we stopped at a unique and well-known hotel.
Did I mention it was Valentine’s?
I plopped on the bed and turned on the TV. The mindless distraction of “Smokey and the Bandit” was better than sitting transfixed on lane markers and headlights.
My honey was also ready for downtime. While not driving, she helped keep my mind from wandering. Even after a shower, her eyes betrayed traces of fatigue. What I did notice was her attire. Something from one of those negligee shops.
A mental conflict arose. I was tired. She was tired. Maybe, if I gave her an opportunity to relax a bit….
I snuggled up with her so we could relax together. The stupid movie sucked me. Too late I noticed she was really relaxed. Her breathing was deep and regular. Her face tranquil. And I was the only one awake.
When we talked about the evening in a later conversation, she let me know, watching TV had not been her plan.
When you think your partner is inviting you to a (physical or not) Romantic Moment:
It’s OK to follow your assumptions and gently move into the Moment.
Trust your partner to advise if that wasn’t their plan.
Don’t let distractions interfere with your relationship!
Though I continue to study and research romance, I can still get distracted. Romantic failures happen. But I continue learning. Think I’ve improved.
Have you ever experienced a Romantic Failure?
I’d love to know it’s not just me. Share it with me in a message or email Robert@RomanceAlive.com.
