I admit it. I’ve ruined Romantic Moments before
Maybe you’ve experienced something similar?
It was an evening created for romance.
• Rock formations glowing in spectacular shades of setting sun red.
• A gentle breeze cooling above normal temperatures.
• Couples sharing lawn chairs and blankets.
• A band playing memorable tunes. Some begging for a slow dance.
But we only found seating for one – on an uncomfortable rock wall. She suggested I keep looking for a two-seater.
When I returned with bad news, she waives me on. At least I thought she did.
I came by again. She’s in deep conversation with newfound friends. Didn’t notice me. I finally sat directly behind her, quietly out of her line of sight.
My fears assaulted me.
• Didn’t she see me?
• She surely knows there’s only room for one.
• Does she realize I’m missing?
• Maybe she doesn’t really want me around.
Fears battered my thoughts. What began as a wonderful evening descended into my hurt feelings and internal resentment. All driven by unfounded fears I surrendered to.
The Romantic Moment disappeared. The impact lingered beyond that evening itself.
Truth is, we all have hidden jars of unfounded fears. Insecurities. When allowed to escape, they distort how we see our partner. How we perceive our relationship. Their whispered lies sabotage our connection. Romantic Moments vanish.
And as you allow fears to distort your thoughts, you become unattractive to your partner.
When fears threaten to escape, overwhelm and make you seem unattractive, remember:
• Past Romantic Moments you’ve shared.
• Your partner chose and continues to choose to be with you.
• And one misunderstanding fueled by fear doesn’t negate months or years of togetherness.
Don’t let your fears make you unattractive!
Lesson learned: If I had paused and controlled my fears, I would have remained attractive. The evening would have ended quite differently. And it might have become a memorable Romantic Moment.
Have you ever let yourself become unattractive?
Robert
