Ladies, what are your first thoughts when your partner comes up behind you and puts his arms around you? Do you cringe?
This continues my series exploring Romantic Moments your partner secretly wishes you’d create, but may never ask for. This time it’s understanding how ladies wish you’d hug them.
Ladies, you’re standing there, involved in a task. You sense your partner behind you. He slides his arms around your waist. Which of these do you feel?
- Comforted
- Startled
- Annoyed
Your response is probably predicated on previous encounters, what you’re doing right now, and how you feel this moment.
And the greatest impact comes from what has happened in the past. Right?
Guys, here’s how you can make a hug from behind into a Romantic Moment your lady desires, probably hasn’t asked for, and will appreciate.
Some warnings.
Don’t interrupt her when she’s concentrating. Cooking dinner, selecting her wardrobe, as she’s running out the door for work, etc., these are terrible times for this hug.
Review your intentions. If it’s for this hug to be a prelude to something more, and you know what I mean, don’t hug her from behind. It won’t be romantic.
Here’s how to go about it.
As you put your arms around her waist, let them linger there for 10 seconds or so. If she pushes you away, let go without feeling hurt.
If she stands up, keep your arms around her waist and gently lean against her back, kissing her neck. Tell her you love her. Use a pet name she appreciates. Then let go.
This hug, without an ulterior motive, will be appreciated. Even if startled, she’ll love the moment and enjoy the quiet reminder of your love as she senses your warmth and closeness.
You’ll have created a Romantic Moment she longs for. And set up the opportunity for another in the future.
Ladies, would you enjoy this a Romantic Moment? Let me know. The next Romantic Memo will begin a new series about four ways to better romance your partner. They’re easy, difficult, and obvious.
Robert Beagle
