Have you given your partner a gift you knew they’d love – but their reaction left you thinking, “That’s not what I expected”?
You’re not alone. And the problem might not be the gift.
A guy in Russia decided to go big with his gift.
He arrived at a crowded football match in Ufa with 1,001 red roses. He dropped to one knee in front of his beloved – and hundreds of cheering spectators.
She refused the flowers, asked him to stand up, whispered something into his ear, and exited the stadium. By herself!
Ouch!
You and I haven’t tried anything this audacious. But let’s consider the lesson hidden in this hill of roses.
Some prefer to be romanced through Gifts, one of the Romantic Preference Groupings I use when talking about romance. But that doesn’t mean just any gift feels romantic to your partner.
Realize that the gift isn’t the most important part. It’s the message the gift communicates.
- I was thinking of you.
- I made time to find this gift.
- I thought about what you like. And,
- I selected this specifically for you.
That’s the message you want delivered by your gift.
Here’s something else I’ve discovered over the years. Size doesn’t matter. Bigger isn’t necessarily better.
Smaller, private, intimate gifts like a small souvenir from a place where you vacationed together, a single rose, or a favorite candy bar may actually communicate romance better than an extravagant gift – or 1,001 red roses.
These say, “I know you. I thought about you. You’re special to me.”
If your partner’s Romantic Preference Grouping is Gifts, it’s not about finding something impressive. It’s finding the gift that delivers your message. The difference between giving a gift and creating a Romantic Moment.
What small gift could you give your partner this week that would quietly deliver your message? If you’re not sure of your partner’s Romantic Preference Grouping?
I invite you to take the short Romantic Preference Quiz you find here. It’s free.
Robert Beagle
