What is the one thing your partner, your sweetheart desires above all else?
Your partner wants to feel they’re special to you. Not tolerated, taken for granted. Special.
When your partner feels special to you, the quality of the relationship grows. Your partner feels safer, secure and more confident. Romantic Moments become cherished celebration of “us”.
When your partner doesn’t feel special to you, your relationship can be destroyed.
The challenge is, your partner will rarely tell you they don’t feel special. Instead, your partner often just quietly drifts away:
• Pulling back emotionally
• Hinting something’s missing.
• Repeatedly asking “Do you still love me?”
• Focusing more on what’s wrong with “us”.
• Sharing fewer thoughts and feelings.
• Keeping score.
• Withholding affection or interest in Romantic Moments.
Left unaddressed, this can lead to a slow death of the relationship.
Do any of these signs ring true with you or your partner?
If so, know this. Relational death isn’t inevitable. But rebuilding these feelings of specialness, of connectedness takes time, intentionality and persistence.
Here are some ideas to begin helping your partner feel valued by you again.
• Be open, vulnerable, and willing to let them know how very important they are to you.
• Tell them (repeatedly) specifically what you love about them.
• Celebrate their skills, uniqueness and successes inside and outside the relationship.
• Listen to and validate their thoughts and ideas without minimizing or correcting them.
Then continue building connection by creating small, safe Romantic Moments. A casual dinner out. A stroll holding hands. An unexpected fruit bouquet. And during these Romantic Moments, offer your partner your greatest gift: Your undivided attention.
Continue and never stop sending the message, “You’re very important to me!” When your partner feels important to you, Romance comes Alive and your relationship thrives.
So I’m curious. What’s one small way you could help your partner feel more valued today? If you’d like assistance in creating come relationship rebuilding Romantic Moments specific for your relationship, Sign up here for a Discovery Call. I’d like to help you.
Robert
