Do you know what the greatest threat to your relationship is?
It’s not another person. But it’s a sneaky, silent and destructive romance killer.
This is the second of the six greatest obstacles to keeping romance alive in your relationship.
Life gets cluttered.
When relationships begin, being together seems effortless. Appointments wait. Chores get postponed. Time together reigns supreme, no matter what you do.
Then life happens.
- Obligations to be addressed.
- Family/friends demanding attention.
- Work advancement becomes crucial.
- Children enter.
Slowly, almost imperceptibly, date nights and alone time evaporates. Romance is squeezed into a rarely visited corner. Most couples don’t drift apart because they stop loving each other. After two years, they become estranged because life crowds out their connection.
Does this describe your relationship?
Here’s a simple way to overcome this threat, restoring romance into your relationship.
Connection doesn’t just happen. You’ll need to make it a priority.
Tell your partner you miss spending time together. You know they’re busy. But when can we spend 30 minutes together for just us? Set a specific time.
Using this approach, you’re:
- Acknowledging you’re both busy
- Asking for a limited amount of time.
- Using relaxed language which doesn’t raise defenses or anxieties.
When you’re together, let your sweetheart you miss spending time with them. Ask for a date together. Set a specific time. Offer to get a sitter.
Relax during the date. And before it ends, let them know you enjoyed this. Ask out for another date soon. Slowly start making these Romantic Moments a regular part of your relationship.
The challenge isn’t lack of time. It’s deciding your relationship deserves time together. It’s taking deliberate, bold steps. You can overcome this challenge with Romantic Moments. And as you reconnect, you’ll find the flickering relational flame rekindle. And romance come alive.
What would happen if you gave your relationship 30 uninterrupted minutes this week?
Robert Beagle
