Her fears about the Romantic Moment for Dean had been realized. Annette was certain he was only being a gentleman when he said he enjoyed the evening.
The limousine arrived 15 minutes late.
Consequently, they were late for their reservation.
The food was just OK.
Their moonlight stroll left sand in his shoes.
Annette had stressed all week about him not enjoying this evening. Even when she invited Dean, she’d expected the Romantic Moment to go terribly wrong.
And it had.
Ever created a Romantic Moment you anticipated your partner wouldn’t enjoy it?
The human mind is interesting. We often experience the outcome we expect. When we expect a Romantic Moment will go badly, one of two things usually happens.
We derail it before it begins. The mindset of disaster results in decisions which undermine our goal of romancing our partner. Instead of making dinner reservations in advance, we call at the last minute – on the busiest night of the week. Forget to put fuel in the car and end up rushing to get to the theater on time. Talk to our partner about how we hope he/she enjoys the Romantic Moment. But our tone warns them they might not.
Or afterwards, we’re absolutely, positively certain our partner didn’t enjoy it. Don’t believe them when they say they enjoyed the evening. Felt romanced by you. Still, you tenaciously cling to your skepticism. Won’t let go of your fear that it was completely horrible.
The truth was, Dean really did enjoy the Romantic Moment Annette created. He said so and meant it.
When you create a Romantic Moment for your partner, expect it to go well. Believe them when they say they enjoyed the Moment. And if it wasn’t perfect, remember this. You now have a shared memory to laugh about together. Plus, you still had a Romantic Moment you shared.
Robert Beagle, LET
