Does your partner long for more romance, but you simply don’t feel like being romantic anymore?
That can be difficult to admit to yourself.
Others have similar thoughts and feelings. They still love their partner and aren’t looking to end things. Yet it seems the desire to create Romantic Moments for their partner has faded. And with it, emotional connection weakens.
This is final post in my series on the biggest obstacles and challenges couples face in keeping Romance Alive.
We’ve explored:
- My partner seems uninterested in romance.
- Busy lives crowding out romance.
- The Roommate Syndrome of familiarity.
- Running out of ideas for Romantic Moments
The fifth challenge: you no longer feel like romancing your partner.
Rather than ignoring it and undermining your relationship, become curious about it. Have a deep conversation with yourself and explore what’s going on.
Start by acknowledging you lack desire to romance your partner. And asking yourself, “Do I truly want a strong, intimate, well-connected relationship.
After confirming your desire for change, ask yourself these questions – in this order.
- When was the last time I intentionally romanced my partner?
- Is my hesitancy something recent? Or has it been growing over time?
- What happened that changed the way I feel?
These questions aren’t to assign blame. They’re about understanding what’s standing between you and romancing your partner.
Then one more question, “Will you push aside your reluctance and commit to either restarting or learning to romance your partner?”
Hopefully you’ll say yes.
Romance isn’t always driven by emotions. It begins and continues with a decision to understand each other’s needs and build from there.
Don’t pretend everything’s fine when it isn’t. It’s time to rediscover your relationship. When two people are committed to working together to breathe life back into their relationship, even faded romance can be rekindled. And Romance comes Alive.
Robert Beagle
