How would you react if your partner informs you a Romantic Moment you created wasn’t romantic?
Leroy started sharing his “failed Romantic Moment” (his words). I half expected him to begin his recounting with, “Ladies and gentlemen of the jury….” as if defending his case.
Leroy knew Linda loved the beach. He planned the Romantic Moment thoughtfully. Early dinner at a seaside restaurant. Table on the deck. A rose in a bud vase. Afterwards, he walked her to the beach. Ocean waves rolled in. Shorebird called in the distance. A beautiful sunset setting.
Driving home, Linda thanked Leroy for the “date”. But 95% of her communication (tone and body language) stated she didn’t find it romantic.
Your partner may not receive every Romantic Moment you create as intended. You may experience a couple in succession. I certainly have. (See Romantic Failure confessions on my YouTube channel @RomanceALIVE.
When informed your Romantic Moment wasn’t romantic, what do you do?
- Maybe try the same idea and hope it works?
- Stop creating Romantic Moments and become just roommates?
Here’s my suggestion. Be an athlete.
Athletes fall. Miss shots. Lose matches. But what matters most is what they do next.
Or do they take a painful breath, evaluate what went wrong, adjust, then go back out again?
Do they quit?
Athletes fall. Miss shots. Lose matches. But what matters most is what they do next.
- Do they quit?
- Or do they take a painful breath, evaluate what went wrong, adjust, then go back out again?
When you create a Romantic Moment which doesn’t land as expected, your response is key.
Instead of retreating or quitting, be curious. Why wasn’t it “successful”? Was it timing? A bad day? Differences in Romantic Preference Groups?
Don’t withdraw. Figure out what happened. Then create a better Romantic Moment based on your learnings and knowledge of their Romantic Preference Group. Your decision will improve your relationship. Your connection will be strengthened. And you’ll grow closer, keeping Romance Alive. Let me ask you. When a Romantic Moment fails, how will you respond?
Robert Beagle, LET
